Friends #: 2

Thanks Punit. Its once again proved that friendship and wine gets tastier with time. However apart we live, however different our lives are; I still smell the same bonding and best satisfaction in taking your words. Thanks ;-) U are best. Cheers to my oldest friend--Punit Oza.

Friends........in a way.

In cold winter night looking at the clear sky & twinkling stars my thoughts just travelled some 20 years of my life in jiffy moment. That's what it is amazing about our thoughts. It can go to anywhere & everywhere in a while without any restrictions.

I remebered all those friends who made mark to my life and was happy to know that I had such a long list but at the same time made me low when I realised no one was permanent. Most of them whom I loved are seperated either my distance or by situation. But they all are my best buddies without whom life would be very dull. It is said "Friendship should be like pendrive - easy to keep and difficult to search if lost" [Although pendrives also carry viruses easily is a different thing ;-)]

With broken family and being introvert & coy I never mixed up in relatives. From my early childhood my only companions were frineds. Through them I seen the world, through them I enjoyed, through them I learned, through them I made my persona. To begin with Sintu, u were my best neighbour. Punit oza, Jayesh, Karim, Jay, Parthav, Mitul u all are my friends since i used to pee in my half pants.

(To be continued.........)

EXPECTATIONS

"Expectations" - Dictionary told me it is "a belief that something will happen". And I interpreted that this "belief" as the root cause of lots of problems. Expectation is an monster to any relations. It is said by famous gujarati poet...'Harindra Dave' if i m not mistakened " Koi no prem Kyare pan ochho nathi hoto, apani apekshaoj vadhare hoy chhe" Humm.. looks good in listening. Equally true, if it's implemented, one can never feel low in his/her relations. But unfortunately its an character of saint which no laymen can apply it completely. If anyone is claiming he is an hypocrite or he is ignorant about his hidden self. (Check out Johari window-Again, an MBA Jargon)

Where there is love expectations are bound to peep in knowingly or unknowingly. Yes, its magnitude may differ from person to person. Parents expects from their children, wives from husband, girlfriends from boyfriends, students from teachers, bosses from employees or a devotees from their God. Even the purest relation friendship is no free from expectations. However unselfish your friendship might be at the end even atleast for the sake of happiness or good company there comes expectations. And in a way looking radically having expectations are logical too.

Expectations only dries up when love withers away or when one is no more related to us. And if we are not living to the expectations of others again & again either the other is showing excess love or we are indifferent towards his/her love. That does'nt mean one should be overburned with our expectations. Its an mutual understanding and abstract cordination between any relations. Good correlation builts up strong base of relation.

No matter however practical & educated we are we can'nt resist ourselves from expectations completely. However harsh the naked reality is we all are selfish to some extend.

P.S : The topic is drafted as per my stand & any counterviews can be commented.

IT HURTS....

• It hurts....when u realize you could have done better in your life.


• It hurts.... when you find the trusted ones breaking your trust.


• It hurts... when u realise you are surrounded by selfish influences and your friends are no exception.


• It hurts.....when u find your stupidity is been considered and chuckled as your foolishness.


• It hurts..... when u find yourself in a fix grappling whether to hold on something or to move ahead.
  
• It hurts.....when u u are not upto the expectations of your dearest one.
  
• It hurts.....when u find the person whom you loved solemnly contemplated you always as an option.
  It gives pain and bruises when........."IT HURTS".