Disclaimer:- All characters appearing in this work are real. Any resemblance to real persons, living or dead is purely intentional. Any hurt to the feeling to any caste, creed or religion is not coincidental but purely the problem of a reader.
Thursday, December 26, 2013
A woman in me and women around me
Thursday, December 12, 2013
Respect quotient
With my colleague, I was standing near the gate of our work place discussing some routine office stuff. My superior and of course so called "disciplinary authority" in terms of Govt hierarchy entered in his rattled Jeep, making coca-phonic sound entered like a Tamil film villain. I believe its better to change the way and avoid communication when there are chances someone can take away your peace of mind. Speech is silvern but silence is golden. I told my colleague to move inside and get back to work. But he insisted to stay..as it would look rude to show back seeing our superior without a greeting. But as expected with force of habit, he taunted addressing to my colleague..."Be sitted on a chair beside and you can discuss peacefully ! Seeing your sir coming and still standing and talking here?." It was all in vain to clarify and make the scene worst.
"A naked person never minds to see the other person naked " huhh..
A thought transcended in my mind....Respect is something everyone expects in one or the other way. Perhaps the root of love lies in respect. Its something transitory and abstract yet powerful. Its basic emotional necessity expected by everyone. With greater status and mightier position the expectation of it increases..! But in order to earn it, first respect is to be given. The real education is your behavious you show to others, specially who are under you. Or towards them whom you are upper hand. Respect comes from humbleness. Sachin is not only respected because of his success or achievements but also for his ability of digesting his fame. Amitabh Bachhan is not respected for his glamorous career but his humbleness towards his fans. Whenever you are blessed with respectable position you owes greater responsibility to prove to its worth. Its equally essential to prove your worth towards the position. There is no point to achieve external respect and internal curse. There is no worth to see happy faces on your retirement day ! Exercise a 'balanced' leadership. I intentionally put forth the word 'balanced' No one will even remember Who is Dev godas or Chandra Shekhars apart from just a symbolic puppet name when they step down their positions..
Respect is something which can only be won in hearts. Its never ever created in true sense with your power, knowledge or position. Talent glorifies with humbleness and humbleness earns respect.
Its equally essential humbleness is not taken for granted when you are dealing with subordinates. But that of course is a topic will be mulled on some other day. And yes the satire and sarcastic babus of the Govt is the another subject I will save for my blog in future...Till then,,,,God bless my counterpart and save him from other heart & mind attacks!! ;-)
Monday, November 18, 2013
When "apotheosis" hanged his boots !!
The most important person in my life, and I have missed him a lot since 1999 when he passed away, my father. Without his guidance, I don't think I would have been standing here in front of you. He gave me freedom at the age of 11, and told me that [I should] chase my dreams, but make sure you do not find shortcuts. The path might be difficult but don't give up, and I have simply followed his instructions. Above all, he told me to be a nice human being, which I will continue to do and try my best. Every time I have done something special [and] showed my bat, it was [for] my father.
My mother, I don't know how she dealt with such a naughty child like me. I was not easy to manage. She must be extremely patient. For a mother, the most important thing is that her child remains safe and healthy and fit. That was what she was most bothered and worried about. She took care of me for the last 24 years that I have played for India, but even before that she started praying for me the day I started playing cricket. She just prayed and prayed and I think her prayers and blessings have given me the strength to go out and perform, so a big thank you to my mother for all the sacrifices.
In my school days, for four years, I stayed with my uncle and aunt because my school was quite far from my home, and they treated me like their son. My aunt, after having had a hard day's play, I would be half asleep and she would be feeding me food so I could go again and play tomorrow. I can't forget these moments. I am like their son and I am glad it has continued to be the same way.
My eldest brother, Nitin, and his family, have always encouraged me. My eldest brother doesn't like to talk much, but the one thing he always told me is that whatever you do, I know you will always give it 100%, and that I have full faith and confidence in you. His encouragement meant a lot to me. My sister, Savita, and her family, was no different. The first cricket bat of my life was presented to me by my sister. It was a Kashmir willow bat. But that is where the journey began. She is one of those many who still continue to fast when I bat, so thank you very much.
Ajit, my brother, now what do I talk about him? I don't know. We have lived this dream together. He was the one who sacrificed his career for my cricket. He spotted the spark in me. And it all started from the age of 11 when he took me to Archrekar sir, my coach, and from there on my life changed. You will find this hard to believe but even last night he called to discuss my dismissal, knowing that there was a remote chance of batting again, but just the habit we have developed, the rapport we have developed, since my birth, has continued and it will continue. Maybe when I'm not playing cricket we will still be discussing technique.
Various things we agreed upon, my technique, and so many technical things which I didn't agree with him, we have had arguments and disagreements, but when I look back at all these things in my life, I would have been a lesser cricketer.
The most beautiful thing happened to me in 1990 when I met my wife, Anjali. Those were special years and it has continued and will always continue that way. I know Anjali, being a doctor; there was a wonderful career in front of her. When we decided to have a family, Anjali took the initiative to step back and say that 'you continue with your cricket and I will take the responsibility of the family'.
Without that, I don't think I would have been able to play cricket freely and without stress. Thanks for bearing with all my fuss and all my frustrations, and all sorts of rubbish that I have spoken. Thanks for bearing with me and always staying by my side through all the ups and downs. You are the best partnership I've had in my life.
Then, the two precious diamonds of my life, Sara and Arjun. They have already grown up. My daughter is 16, my son is 14. Time has flown by. I wanted to spend so much time with them on special occasions like their birthdays, their annual days, their sports day, going on holidays, whatever. I have missed out on all those things. Thanks for your understanding. Both of you have been so, so special to me you cannot imagine. I promise you [that] for 14 and 16 years I have not spent enough time with both of you, but the next 16 years or even beyond that, everything is for you.
My in-laws, Anand Mehta and Annabel, both have been so, so supportive [and] loving and caring. I have discussed on various things in life, generally with them, and have taken their advice. You know, it's so important to have a strong family who is always with you and who are guiding you. Before you start clapping, the most important thing they did was allowing me to marry Anjali, so thank you very much.
In the last 24 years that I have played for India I have made new friends, and before that I have had friends from my childhood. They have all had a terrific contribution. As and when I have called them to come and bowl to me at the nets, they have left their work aside to come and help me. Be it joining me on holidays and having discussions with me on cricket, or how I was a little stressed and wanting to find a solution so I can perform better.
All those moments my friends were with me. Even for when I was injured, I would wake up in the morning because I couldn't sleep and thought that my career was over because of injuries, that is when my friends have woken up at 3 o'clock in the morning to drive with me and make me believe that my career was not over. Life would be incomplete without all those friends. Thanks for being there for me.
My cricket career started when I was 11. The turning point of my career was when my brother (Ajit) took me to Achrekar sir. I was extremely delighted to see him up in the stands. Normally he sits in front of the television and he watches all the games that I play. When I was 11/12, those were the days when I used to hop back on his scooter and play a couple of practice matches a day. The first half the innings I would be batting at Shivaji Park, the second half, at some other match in Azad Maidan. He would take me all over Mumbai to make sure I got match practice.
On a lighter note, in the last 29 years, sir has never ever said 'well played' to me because he thought I would get complacent and I would stop working hard. Maybe he can push his luck and wish me now, well done on my career, because there are no more matches, sir, in my life. I will be witnessing cricket, and cricket will always stay in my heart, but you have had an immense contribution in my life, so thank you very much.
My cricket for Mumbai started right here on this ground, the Mumbai Cricket Association (MCA), which is so dear to me. I remember landing from New Zealand at four o'clock in the morning, and turning up for a game here at eight o'clock just because I wanted to be a part of Mumbai cricket, and not that somebody forced me. That was for the love of Mumbai cricket, and thank you very much. The president is here so thank you very much, along with your team, for taking care of me and looking after my cricket.
The dream was obviously to play for India, and that is where my association with BCCI started. BCCI was fantastic, right from my debut they believed in my ability and selecting me into the squad at the age of 16 was a big step, so thanks to all the selectors for having faith in me and the BCCI for giving me the freedom to express myself out in the middle. Things would have been different if you had not been behind me, and I really appreciate your support. Especially when I was injured, you were right with me and making sure that all the treatments were taken care of, and that I got fit and fine and playing [right] back for India.
The journey has been special, the last 24 years, I have played with many senior cricketers, and even before that there were many senior cricketers with whom I watched on television. They inspired me to play cricket, and to play in the right way. Thanks to all those senior cricketers, and unfortunately I have not been able to play with them, but I have high regards for all their achievements and all their contributions.
We see it on the mega-screen, Rahul, Laxman, Sourav, and Anil, who is not here, and my team-mates right here in front me. You are like my family away from home. I have had some wonderful times with you. It is going to be difficult to not be part of the dressing room, sharing those special moments. All the coaches for their guidance, it has been special for me. I know when MS Dhoni presented me the 200th Test match cap on Day One morning. I had a brief message for the team. I would like to repeat that. I just feel that all of us are so, so fortunate and proud to be part of the Indian cricket team and serving the nation.
Knowing all of you guys, I know you will continue to serve the nation in the right spirit and right values. I believe we have been the lucky ones to be chosen by the Almighty to serve this sport. Each generation gets this opportunity to take care of this sport and serve it to the best of our ability. I have full faith in you to continue to serve the nation in the right spirit and to the best of your ability, to bring all the laurels to the country. All the very best.
I would be failing in my duties if I did not thank all the doctors, the physios, the trainers, who have put this difficult body together to go back on the field and be able to play. The amount of injuries that I have had in my career, I don't know how you have managed to keep me fit, but without your special efforts, it would never have happened. The doctors have met me at weird hours. I mean I have called them from Mumbai to Chennai, Mumbai to Delhi, I mean wherever. They have just taken the next flight and left their work and families to be with me, which has allowed me to play. So a big thank you to all three of you for keeping me in good shape.
My dear friend, late Mark Mascarenhas, my first manager. We unfortunately lost him in a car accident in 2001, but he was such a well-wisher of cricket, my cricket, and especially Indian cricket. He was so passionate. He understood what it takes to represent a nation and gave me all the space to go out and express myself, and never pressurised me to do this ad or promotion or whatever the sponsors demanded. He took care of that and today I miss him, so thank you Mark for all your contribution.
My current management team, WSG, for repeating what Mark has done, because when I signed the contract I exactly told them what I want from them, and what it requires to represent me. They have done that and respected that.
Someone who has worked closely with me for 14 years is my manager, Vinod Nayudu. He is more like my family and all the sacrifices, spending time away from his family for my work, has been special, so big thank you to his family as well for giving up so much time for my work with Vinod.
In my school days, when I performed well, the media backed me a lot. They continue to do that till this morning. Thank you so much to the media for supporting and appreciating my performances. It surely had a positive effect on me. Thank you so much to all the photographers as well for those wonderfully captured moments that will stay with me for the rest of my life, so a big thank you to all the photographers.
I know my speech is getting a bit too long (crowd roars with 'noooo'), but this is the last thing I want to say. I want to thank all the people here who have flown in from various parts of the world, and have supported me endlessly, whether I scored a 0 or a 100-plus. Your support was so dear to me and meant a lot to me. Whatever you have done for me.
I know I have met so many guys who have fasted for me, prayed for me, done so much for me. Without that life wouldn't have been like this for me. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart, and also say that time has flown by rather quickly, but the memories you have left with me will always be with me forever and ever, especially "Sachin, Sachin" which will reverberate in my ears till I stop breathing. Thank you very much. If I have missed out on saying something, I hope you understand. Goodbye.
200 tests literally means 1000 days of cricket. Counting one days, IPLs and other first class will make this figure even more fat.
Its not just a game of cricket...or doing something for the country.. Its all about that people "LIVED" their lives with Sachin... I still use to remember how in my family siblings get united to see sachin bat ! How we use to get up early to see open him the inning....That tinkling excitement before any important match....Its awesome !! How all the people celebrated every victory of India and mourned every defeat..Its still vividly clear in my mind and forever imprinted into heart.
"Its always at the end of something that makes us realize how beautiful the beginning was! "
Monday, November 11, 2013
Part II ......Unlocking wedlock Continues....
- Life is all about living for some one..There's no charm in all worldly pleasures at some point of time. Singledom shapes into tiresome after certain age. You can enjoy all worldly pleasures only with your hand locked in a hand. Learn to see beyond your nose with permanent relationship.
- Marriage though looks restrictive in nature, or looks a gamble or risk to tender prospects, its turns into liberation if followed with spiritual sense. Though mutual understanding and knowing each other is a continued process. It requires lot of patience, tolerance and flexibility at the same point of time.
- There can be stage, where married life become monotonous, restless, frustrated and perplexed. There can be a time where you find not possible to live together. There can be difference of opinion on every single subject and you feel like hell staying longer. But all you require is little patience, respect, love and care. Linger over your happy times and things can be soughted out. Its all about "we" over "I"
- You can have your own creation i.e your own child...perhaps the biggest purpose for which an institution of marriage is invented ! With your own family unit, one gets complete.
- Girls can legally blame all blunders of their lives on their husbands after marriage :-D They will receive official right of complaining on any subject of their lives to their husbands !
- Can have all craziest fantasies with your partners..Lol ;-P
- You are now put in those "trusted" category. I have heard once soft humour....people don't trust unmarried to such an extent they even don't rent bicycle to them. Forget the other things !!
- Practicing celebacy is such a passe and hypocratic. Remember virginity is not at all a pride. Its just lack of opportunity.. :-P
- Cherish the companionship. Create memories. Add surprises. Face troubles. Explore each other. Marriage is fun..Enjoy it..Be married !! Now after reading the above if people get tempted to tie their knot or smiled on their decision of getting married read the next part......................Who knows how miserable it will turn out to get yourself married ;-) hehehahahuhu
Wednesday, November 6, 2013
Don't worry GET MARRIED... ;-)
A man inserted an 'ad' in the classifieds: "Wife wanted." Next day he received a hundred letters. They all said the same thing: "You can have mine."
Joke apart... Marriage - some courts it some dodges it....With the fast changing and competitiveness around people nowadays don't want to confine themselves in marriages knuckles.. Thanks to our culture people here are still low urbane and prefers to get settled down at some point of time in their life... But actually You don't have to confine yourself to a cave and shun relationships to experience true liberation.....Liberation comes with marriage if you are with right person. Marriage too can become spiritual*
(* Conditions applied)
- Its like laddoos in both hands..If it works out, you will lead a smooth and pleasant life and if does not work out, you could focus on your karm and become liberated and wiser. Either way you wins
- You got to bear with your in-laws..This develops your interpersonal skills ;-)
- You definitely learn to attend your in-laws functions whether you like it or not !! This develops your patience and helps to face any unwanted situation of life..
- Any harsh words from your superior or boss is now bearable and flown from one ear to other. Marriage is like an ego crusher !
- On serious note, marriage helps to unleash one potential energy. You learn to take responsibilities. And its the best thing about marriage. You learn to live for others.
- Your sexual energy is channelized towards dedicated partner. It will help to concentrate on your work and your potential can be used more productively..either fending off unwanted attention or seeking it.
- You can retrieve to your higher spiritual goals with your partner more comfortably...
- Once you settled down slowly you start to love your life and being responsible will start to take calculated risk...from business to any personal matters.
Sunday, November 3, 2013
A Protagonist Puppy !!
Wednesday, March 27, 2013
Story of an undeterred Struggle
Today when some one comes to me for career consultation I always give example of Hetal and use to say its ultimately attitude decides our success. Although clueless, will to win makes us win. No matter where you come from, who you are, how smart you are or what is your background. It is the struggle what makes man successful. I am the witness of his life go through.. God definitely gives return those who word hard in their life. Its just that he doesn't share his calender with us..Man who at once found hard to hire auto rickshaw will be travelling in swanky car......Man once use to share one bed room with 5 room mates will be living in luxurious penthouse and in soft couch. Though this things do not make him successful. It is his spirit to loggerhead with situation makes him successful. Sooner or later it is one who thinks can win, wins.. Love you hetal !!! You will be always to look upon !!!
Monday, August 22, 2011
આ મન પાચમ ના મેળામાં !!
Monday, August 15, 2011
"Free"-dom of minds

Msg beeped today morning which made me awake.....which read "Happy Independence Day " (If u r married than plz ignore this msg :-D) All through the day SMSes thronged and all the ebullient spirits were suddenly awakened...(which will last for a day) Our patroitic and feeling of nationalism spurts only on national festivals. Being patroitic and remembering our national heroes on these days are in vogue today..It has became more of a day to flaunt tri colours on face,putting symbolic flags, wearing khadi clothes, attending I-day functions and playing prtriotic songs on gadgets.. (though just for a day) Hypocracy has always being in our blood whether we accept it or not.
* Have I utilised my freedom in contribution towards progress of my country?
* Have I made myself civilised enough?
* Have I paid my taxes and aloofed myself from every kind of corruption?
* Have I tried to kept my country clean and abiding my duties?
* Have I broaden my thoughts and given space to other's freedom.?
* Have I understood the responsibility that comes along freedom.?
* Have I made myself free from all discrimination in true sense?
* Have I made myself free ? (Quote from Jaybhai's sunday column aptly fits "Khari swatantrata e ke jyare bijane bahar 'HA' kaheti vakhate apani jatne andarthi 'NA' n kahevi pade!)
On this day make a thought is India free from poverty & corruption? Are we free from rigidity & discrimination in true sense? Are we following everything what we are showing? Are we free from our selfish self centeredness? Have we raised any voice against injustice? Are we true to our conscience? Are we really always meant what we express on independence day?Are we free from hypocracy that I am free from above all?
If above answers are in affirmative then go on... my dear fellow countrymen...
"HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY"
Monday, December 20, 2010
Friends #: 2
